The world is calling: how a change of scenery helped Carly Neave find her purpose

 

You know that old saying ‘fortune favours the brave’? Carly Neave is living proof that a leap into the unknown – or in her case, to Dubai – truly does pay off. 

Carly Neave is an international travel and wellness blogger, based between London and Dubai, with an online audience of tens of thousands. She’s deeply passionate about inspiring others to live with balance, passion and happiness and I’ve admired her energy, integrity and bubbly zest for life from afar for years now. (#girlcrush)

So, it goes without saying that I was beyond excited to finally chat with her and learn more about the journey to her all-inspiring here and now.

Turns out it was there from a very young age, that yearning for something more, and Carly just knew she wanted to live with purpose. But it was more than that too, she wanted to make a positive contribution to the lives of others – something I can so easily relate to. By the age of 21 she was working in the real estate industry in London… sounds glamorous right? And yet, deep down, Carly knew this wasn’t where she was meant to be.

So she asked herself a single question: ‘what does my future look like right now?’

“The answer to that question (at the time) was so distant to what I wanted, I knew something big had to change in my life,” she says.

she didn’t have a single ounce of fear – not because the move wasn’t filled with uncertainty and challenges, but because she was so sure of it being the right step.
— Carly Neave

And change it did – before long, she was jetting off to take up a role as a PR intern in Dubai, leaving the security of friends and family behind to embark on a fruitful new adventure. Reflecting on that time of complete life upheaval, Carly tells me that she didn’t have a single ounce of fear – not because the move wasn’t filled with uncertainty and challenges, but because she was so sure of it being the right step.

“We all have those moments when that decision feels so right and so final; there is no question in our minds of if we should go back on it. Whether it’s deciding to lose weight, run a marathon, quit a job, start a new one, get married or move country (the list goes on), it’s those decisions that give you so much confidence to go and pursue your goals,” says Carly.

And that right there is something I’d never considered – how making those big calls actually fuels you to keep moving in the right direction. Carly’s ability to look beyond her here and now, overcome any self-doubt and take a massive stride forward at such a young age is, in my book, remarkable. And all while flying solo.

So how’d she do it? What strong stuff is this woman built of because, quite frankly, I want some for myself. As we dug a little deeper, Carly places a huge amount of value on her early career experience in both real estate and PR, and working with a range of different people. Not only did it equip her with the tools she needed to take on the world, but cemented her belief that life is all about authentic connections and adding value through supportive, uplifting relationships.

“I find people incredibly interesting, I want to understand their stories, understand what drives them and what might be holding them back. I am constantly looking for how I could possibly add value in that person’s life – and that never comes from a superficial conversation,” she says.

That focus on authenticity is something that sets Carly apart from many of her online counterparts. Not only does she prioritise true connection, she’s refreshingly upfront about the challenges, and yes, the self-doubt, that comes hand-in-hand with putting yourself out there on a daily basis.

“There have been so many days where I question myself, where I’m going with it and if I’m doing it right. I put a lot of pressure on myself to keep growing and reaching new people, to push my own content to a new level and to add value in a way that other people in the industry aren’t. With my work, I’m constantly in my own head, which can be incredibly hard,” she says.

She calls having mentors in life ‘vital’ and points to the importance of gaining outside perspectives during challenging times.

 

“I look to mentors around me, people I admire in this industry and in life and ask their advice. I think it’s important to communicate and gain new perspectives, which you can’t do from an office desk alone, so find the people who inspire you and who are doing what you want to do, but better!” says Carly.

I’ve found one such inspiration in Carly – but I knew that before I even met her. Because through the inevitable ups and downs that come with growing a business, Carly remains driven by her core purpose at all times – to make a positive contribution to those around her.

...I am helping a few beautiful people to smile more, find confidence in themselves and their life actions, be healthier, eat better and live life with less fear.
— Carly Neave

“I may not be moving mountains and shaping countries! But I know from messages I receive that I am helping a few beautiful people to smile more, find confidence in themselves and their life actions, be healthier, eat better and live life with less fear. Contribution is high up on my list of life needs, so this makes me feel fulfilled and keeps pushing me on,” says Carly.

When I asked her how she stays balanced, fulfilled, and moving in the right direction, she points to the power of self-reflection.

“I think questions are overlooked; we need to ask ourselves them far more often. Are you happy doing what you are doing? Does it make you feel alive? Is it creating that future you’ve always dreamed of?” says Carly.

“I honestly think the world has its way of opening new doors and showing you opportunities when you step outside your comfort zone and make the changes you need to. It’s as if it rewards you for being brave!” she says.

So… what questions do you need to ask yourself today?

What makes you feel alive?

What does your future look like right now?

If it’s not everything you’ve always dreamt of, take a leaf out of Carly’s book, dig deep and find the courage to leap. Will it be scary? Yes. Will it be worth it? No doubt. What happens if you fall? Well, we’ll be waiting to dust you off, pick you up, and keep on moving in the right direction.

 
Odette Barry